I Remember growing up in Ireland and seeing all my friends with their sheets of paper with boxes to mark each kick they felt, this was many years ago so when my Dr in Canada didn’t give me one i assumed we no longer had to do it. My Dr would ask if Tiernan’s movements were often and I’d say not really “he’s a lazy little bugger” and i would laugh, i felt him move but not all this kicking that i read about after we lost him, my mother said I wasn’t an active baby either so i didn’t think i should be scared.
Our last Drs appointment was April 12th as i was due on the 14th and we mentioned movement had decreased, i was 38 years old, pregnancy diabetes and my Dr didn’t seem to worried but set up an NST for the 15th of April, i went into labour at 10pm on the 14th and we left for the hospital at 3:15am when i was contracting every five minutes for an hour, we got to the hospital and found out shortly afterwards that our baby boy was dead, i remember sobbing and looking at my husband saying I’m sorry, i gave birth to him about 30 minutes later or less, he was so beautiful and looked like he was sleeping, he wasn’t dead more than 12 hours, his skin was perfect, he smelled perfect.
My Dr came in a few hours after he was born and he was pretty shook up and sorry, but what use is sorry. He was the professional and I feel like he neglected my son & I, our son died nearly 6 months ago and it feels like yesterday and also feels like this pain and anguish has been my companion for decades. Fetal kick counts are imperative, knowing your babies movements can save your babies life. If I had of been educated i would be holding him right now and not sitting here with tears in my eyes hating myself for not knowing he was in distress and that my body became his tomb.
Counting your baby’s movements
Most mothers-to-be eagerly await that first reassuring flutter, just to know their baby is growing and developing. Sometime between 18-25 weeks into pregnancy, moms will begin to feel movement. For first time moms, it may occur closer to 25 weeks, and for second or third time moms, it may occur closer to 18 weeks.
Don’t panic if you’re not sure what you’re feeling. For a couple of weeks it may be difficult to distinguish between gas and the real thing, but very soon, you will notice a pattern. You will gradually learn your baby’s sleeping and waking cycles, when he or she is most active, and what seems to trigger activity.
There are numerous ways to count your baby’s movements and numerous opinions on how many movements you are looking for within a certain amount of time. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends that you time how long it takes you to feel 10 kicks, flutters, swishes, or rolls. Ideally, you want to feel at least 10 movements within 2 hours. You will likely feel 10 movements in much less time.
You might want to start a notebook of your own or use the various charts below. In a notebook, record the time you feel the first movement, place a check mark for each movement you feel until you reach 10, then record the time of the tenth movement. This will help you observe patterns and discover how long it normally takes for your baby to move 10 times. Keep in mind that you are looking for significant deviations from the pattern. It can become easy to expect an exact amount of time every time you do your kick counts; however, there can be a wide range of time differences. So remember to look for significant deviations from the pattern over the course of a few days. When should I call my physician or midwife?
If you have followed the above recommendations and have not felt 10 kicks by the end of the second hour, wait a few hours and try again. If after trying a second time, you do not feel 10 movements within 2 hours you should contact your health care provider. If you notice a significant deviation from the pattern over the course of 3-4 days.
Examples for Recording your Kick Counts
Monday 9:00 XXXXXXXXXX 9:32 Total: 32 min
Tuesday 12:00 XXXXXXXXXX 12:45 Total: 45 min
Wednesday 9:00 XXXXXXXXXX 10:00 Total: 1 hr.
Thursday 9:00 XXXXXXXXXX 11:15 Total: 2 hrs. 15 min.
(This is an example of significant change. In a case like this you should notify your health care provider.)